Play A Bigger Game

 

I came upon the book, Play Your Bigger Game, 9 Minutes to Learn, A Lifetime To Live, by Lifecoach Rick Tamlyn. It's a roadmap to living your best life and includes a gameboard, which looks a bit like Tic Tac Toe.

You can start anywhere on the board, which represents Tamlyn's plhilosophy: "Life is all made up, so why not make it up the way uyou really want?" The names on the squares express what most of us want: Create a meaningful life and have a positive impact on the world around us.

On the squares you'll find:

Hunger - you feel a powerful desire for something more, even if uyoui don't know what it is.
Compelling Purpose - you define or seek a purpose that inspires or drives you.
Comfort Zones - you feel comfortable, or even uncomfortable, but are afraid to leave for something better.
Gulp - you feel fear, possibly mixed with excitement, before the leap into change.
Investment - you look at time, money, talent, energy and work needed to make the change.
Allies - you build a support network, which can be family, friends, circumstances, other people, pets, your church...whatever helps you.
Sustainability - what you  need to sustain yuou, mentally, physicaly emotionally and spiritually for this bigger game.
Assess - ask, "How am I doing?' "Where am I." "Where do I want to go?"
Bold Action - the Center square, where you actually make the leap into your bigger game.

So if you're seeking a compelling purpose, stuck on your project, or find your New Year's Resolutions waning, this book can be an antidote. Turn them into a game, with you as the player. Or you could get some friends together for a rousing group session.

Religious Scientists will agree with Tamlyn when he says: Your life goes in the direction of the words that fall from your mouth; your life goes in the direction of the questions you ask. This is something we know, and practice as best we can.

This board game triggers questions that keep us stretching, thriving, growing and going beyond limits, self-imposed or not.

I found the book and the game helpful as I looked at my own completed book manuscript. Yes, I completed the writing, but now felt overwhelmed at the next stage--actually getting it published and having the book in my hand.

It's easier to hang out in my comfort zone at home, puttering and decluttering and watching movies. This is positive as I take care of myself and my home, but also negative as it keeps me stuck.

I see that I need to move around that board to Assess where I'm at, get over the fear of moving into unchartered waters of the publishing world, and take a big Gulp.  It's only Bold  Action that will take me into MY Bigger Game.

So are you a player who wants to play a bigger game on this plane of existence? Who, at the end of your life prefers to say, "It's been a great ride," rather than "If only...?"

Then as Tamlyn suggests, get in touch with what matters to you, ask some good questions, Gulp and move forward with Bold Action. His book provides the details on how to do this.

We are fortunate at our Center for Spiritual Living to have a loving environment, positive people who can be natural allies, and a spiritual philosophy to ground us on our journey through a meaningful life.

And so it is.

I Am An Evolving Mystic

I am an evolving mystic. I am attuned to Spirit and my oneness with Spirit, and know that all life, visible and invisible, is the wholeness of God. I use prayer, meditation, contemplation and silence to patiently listen for the voice within. I center myself throughout the day, observing my thoughts, emotions, actions, and people in a non-judgmental way. As I evolve my consciousness, past the blame game of victimization, through the personal empowerment of using prayer to make life changes, to surrendering to divine guidance and allowing Spirit to live through me, I finally reach complete identification with God -- knowing that I am It. I am an expression of God in action.

As I evolve, I allow my awareness of the Infinite and my place in It to be revealed, step by step. Each day I do soul work to answer these questions: Why was I born? What is the greater meaning and purpose of my life? How am I meant to be of service? As I develop a soul with qualities of humility, dignity, integrity, honor, wisdom, justice, harmony and endurance, I build a soul of STAMINA, strong enough to be in direct contact with God, to listen to and act upon Divine Guidance.

As my soul work continues, I find my highest potential -- to live without fear, to experience divinity, to develop my own healing power, and to evoke my Inner Mystic.

And so it is.

Evoking Our Inner Mystic - Part III

Continuing with the class, Practical Mysticism, we focused on the lessons of the Sufi mystic, Rumi, who lived 700 years ago. He is someone who experienced the merging into that bliss of divine love, and wrote some of the world’s most beautiful poetry.

Born in 1207 in Afghanistan, the son of a theologian and mystic, he became a teacher.
In 1244, he met the wandering mystic Shams of Tabriz, who he recognized as a kindred spirit.

 They spent months together in what is described as pure ecstatic communion. Shams served as spiritual guru and they shared a pure unselfish love mixed with reverence.

Rumi came to understand that love for the teacher, the Beloved, is simply divine love, love for our own inner self. God is the Beloved Friend, and Shams embodied this Friend.
Shams taught Rumi that God within us is real; we are not separate entities. We are all One.

This intense relationship aroused jealousy  and the story is that Shams disappeared, murdered through a plot involving Rumi’s son.

Rumi’s grief over this loss of his Beloved Friend stimulated his transformation into a mystic artist. Today we celebrate not only his inspired poetry, but his legacy of the Whirling Dervishes.

Rumi poetry is all about love, acknowledging that “God is Love, Lover and Beloved.”
He writes: “Those who don’t feel this Love pulling them like a river, those who don’t drink dawn like a cup of spring water or take in sunset like supper, those who don’t want to change, let them sleep."

He also writes: “There’s no love in me without your being, no breath without that. I once thought I could give up this longing, then thought again. But I couldn’t continue being human."

In his grief and trance-like whirling movement, Rumi disgorged his poetry: “The Lover is ever drunk with love; He is free, he is mad, He dances with ecstasy and delight. Caught by our own thoughts, We worry about every little thing. But once we get drunk on that love, Whatever will be, will be.”

His poetry echoes across the centuries, relevant today. “When your love reaches the core, earth-heavals and bright irruptions spew in the air. the universe becomes one spiritual thing, that simple, love mixing with spirit.”

And so it is.

Evoking Our Inner Mystic - Part II

 

I, along with Rev. Nancy Woods, am in the throes of teaching the class, Practical Mysticism, and we’re continuing to awaken our inner mystics.

As mentioned in an earlier blog, we use the book by Caroly Myss, Enter the Castle, which is inspired by Teresa of Avila, who views the Soul as a castle with seven mansions and much soul work to help our evolution.

The soul is our divine essence, a masterpiece of divinity in miniatures and this soul castle represents our deep inner consciousness. It’s an inner sanctum to gather the strength, clarity and stability to access sublime divine guidance, says Myss.  As we journey into the Castle, we grow to understand the meaning and purpose of our lives. We build soul stamina and endurance.

According to Myss, the reason we have descended into physical life is to unleash the power of our soul upon Earth, and we can strengthen it.

In the lower three mansions, we work to clear our soul of what Myss calls “reptiles,” those interior sufferings of mind, heart and spirit. These are attachments to the physical world that bring pain, distraction, and haunt our thoughts and feelings. They need to be faced and expelled, which is not easy. 

Reptiles can be hatred, jealousy, envy, vengeance, arrogance, dishonesty, vanity, guilt, memories of abuse, inability to forgive, addictions and more. It takes a boot camp of disciplined soul work to expel these venomous, slithering reptiles before we can move along. In the Fourth Mansion, we are purified enough to stretch our soul -- to become a divine container of love.

Traveling through the fifth, sixth and seventh mansions successfully brings us to fearless bliss, united with divine enlightenment.

Quite a journey.

Along the way we encounter Chaos. This may be Divine Chaos, such as a health challenge, death of loved one, earthly disasters or other traumatic events which bring new decisions and directions to our soul’s journey.

For example, a bout with breast cancer twenty years ago prompted my spiritual quest. I found this Center, and never left. Without the chaos and emotional turmoil of that health challenge, which of course I didn’t want, I wouldn’t be here today.

Chaos can also be self-created...to avoid confronting an unpleasant truth. As we examine our actions, reactions, personal choices and motivations, we become aware of how we create chaos to distract ourselves, to cloud reason and create confusion. Perhaps we’re attached to an addiction, and blow up in anger if someone suggests we give it up.

As we examine our attachments, we can ask: "What power do they have over me?
How can I get free? How might it change me to detach?"

A First Mansion challenge is to go through the door of humility. This is not humiliation -- that assault on our self esteem when someone demeans us. No, this is being humble, detached from the need for praise, or approval or the need to win. It’s listening for divine guidance and following it. 

We detach, as Myss says, from everyday “earthbound madness.” As we liberate ourselves from the fear of humiliation we can live a “wildly free life.”

I’d like that. Wouldn’t you?  And so it is.

Evoking Our Inner Mystic

I've been teaching a class, Practical Mysticism, with Rev. Nancy Woods at our Center for Spiritual Living. We have a great group and we’re definitely working to awaken our inner mystics, to evolve as mystics.

So, what exactly IS a mystic?  When I first heard the word, I thought of that Walt Disney film, The Sorcerer’s Apprentice, where Mickey Mouse is left alone to mind the sorcerer’s habitat, gets the mops and brooms dancing and the water sloshing until things get out of hand, and the sorcerer arrives in the nick of time to stop the disaster in progress.

No, we’re not learning to be sorcerers. According to Ernest Holmes, a mystic is one who intuitively--intuitively -- perceives Truth and, with mental process, arrives at Spiritual Realization. Mystics are so attuned to Spirit that they are totally convinced of their oneness with the infinite and know that all life, visible and invisible, is the wholeness of God.

We can all evolve as mystics. Evolving mystics use prayer, meditation, contemplation  and silence to patiently listen for the voice within. Evolving mystics practice the presence, or remember to center themselves throughout the day. They also observe their thoughts, emotions, actions and everyday situations and people in a non-judgmental way.

It’s all about evolving our consciousness -- past the powerless blame game of victimization, through the personal empowerment of using prayer to make life changes, to surrendering to divine guidance by allowing Spirit to live through us, and finally to complete identification with God -- the knowing that I am It, I am an expression of God in action.

Basically, as we evolve we allow our awareness of the infinite and our place in it to be revealed, step by step. We use a book by Carolyn Myss, Enter the Castle, which is inspired by the work of Teresa of Avila, a 15th century nun. Teresa views the Soul as a castle with many rooms and much soul work to help our evolution.

Today’s mystics can be anyone; there is no need for monasteries. We seek a partnership with God to answer these questions: "Why was I born? What is the greater purpose and meaning of my life? How am I meant to be of service?" The process is meant to build a soul of stamina, to develop our own healing power.

And what exactly is our soul? It’s not our mind, or even our subconscience.  Its our essence, our deep inner consciousness, that part of us that desires to be strong enough for direct contact with God, to be able to listen to and act upon divine guidance. A soul with the qualities of humility, dignity, integrity, honor, wisdom,, justice, harmony and endurance -- that, according to Carolyn Myss, is a soul with STAMINA.

And as we journey into the Castle with this class, that is our ultimate destination -- to find our highest potential, to live without fear -- to experience divinity, to evoke our Inner Mystic.

And so it is.

New Year

The big ball has fallen in Times Square, and we're already into the New Year - 2015. To quote Sarah Ban Breathnach on brainyquote.com: “New Year’s Day. A fresh start. A new chapter in life waiting to be written. New questions to be asked, embraced, and loved. Answers to be discovered and then lived in this transformative year of delight and self-discovery. Today carve out a quiet interlude for yourself in which to dream, pen in hand. Only dreams give birth to change.”

So, do you have a dream for 2015? Something expansive? Large? Or not so large. Something you always wanted to do, be or have? Something where you go beyond limits. The New Year awaits your inspiration.

The holidays this year were my inspiration for my latest photo book. It was a gift to my grandson, Samuel, for his birthday. I made one for his sister’s birthday in August, so of course he had to have one. It’s filled with photos of him from 2014 with accompanying poems. It was quite a project, and definitely worth it to see his expression as he looked through the book with his Dad.

A book like this shows that he is much loved, much valued in this world.

My daughter and her family visited, and it was lovely having them around. Christmas is magical with children anticipating opening the many gifts scattered around the tree. We enjoyed a holiday feast with all the trimmings on Christmas Eve, the opening of many, but not all the gifts, and  a plate of cookies and cup of milk set out for Santa in anticipation of a few more gifts in the morning.

Photo books are my special legacy, and a creative way to mark one’s passage through life.

As Stephen Spielberg is quoted: “All of us every single year, we're a different person. I don't think we're the same person all our lives.” Certainly Samuel is not the same person he was in 2013, or 2012, or any other year since his birth.

And neither are we. In conversations with the family, we discussed my living on my own and somewhat overwhelmed at times taking care of the home in which everyone but me has left. Kids grew up. Husband made his transition. And here I am. Living in an “artifact,” said my son-in-law. Perhaps it is time to move. he suggested.

That gave me pause. I hadn’t thought that I was living in an artifact, which is an object remaining from an earlier period. Yes, the house is an artifact, and I’ve been in the throes of decluttering the accumulated stuff and things --many many artifacts -- from the forty some years I, and my family, lived in the house.

So this is a new year, with new decisions and new challenges. I’m still digesting the “artifact” description of my home, and deciding what to do about it. But whatever I do, or whatever any of us do in this new year of 2015, here’s another quote, from British author Neil Gaiman: “I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You're doing things you've never done before, and more importantly, you're doing something.”

So let's do something. Let's try new things. Let's make mistakes. Let's live, learn and grow.

And so it is.

Limitless Opportunities

Ernest Holmes says there is One Infinite Mind consciously directing our destiny. No mistakes have been made, none are being made, and none can be made.

“Suppose someone says,” he continues, 'I have made a lot of mistakes in my life, I had opportunities I did not grasp.' Every man has this feeling at some time in his life. This is a direct belief that there is but one opportunity which comes to man and if he does not take it he will have no more. This is a belief in limited opportunities and must be denied completely and specifically.” 

After watching the dark southern gothic independent film, “Joe,” starring Nicholas Cage, I found a fascinating story about opportunities lost, then found, then lost again...centered on one of the other stars.

According to Internet articles, Gary Poulter was recruited to play the pivotal role of the ugly, alcoholic, degenerate yet charismatic villain -- a man who beats his son for his day’s earnings, pimps out his daughter for booze money, and kills a fellow drunk for a bit of money and a bottle of liquor.

Poulter was living on the streets of Austin, Texas when casting agents were canvassing bus-stops and street corners for colorful characters to populate the film. Decades of addiction had wasted his appearance, but he had just the authenticity the director,  David Gordon Green, was seeking.

While he easily could have had a small part, the director spotted something special and offered him the third lead if he would commit, memorize his lines, and be on time every day.  He agreed.

Reportedly, although Poulter had youthful acting aspirations, he became a drifter, was in and out of rehab, had an arrest record, had been diagnosed as bipolar, and basically, by age 53, was homeless. Yet here he was, with a totally unexpected opportunity. A new door was opening.

Poulter posted on Facebook: "The script called for somebody that looked like 'An old man, alcoholic, prone to violence, who looked like the aftermath of a human disaster.' My first day of shooting when I went to hair and make up. I asked the woman 'Bridgette' 'Do you need to do anything with my appearance?' She said 'No you're good!!!!!!!!!!!!!!' lol."

Poulter committed, stayed sober on the days he filmed, was embraced by the crew, and  blew people away with his embodiment of the role. He was working to put his life back together and even had some promising auditions for roles after the film ended. This was his big break.

Sadly, this was not to be. A few weeks after production ended, he was found submerged in three feet of water near a homeless encampment. He had received medical attention for alcohol-induced seizures a few days before, and possibly this is what happened to him before he fell in the water.

But whatever happened, his time was up. The door closed, but according to director Green in an interview: ”The last conversation we had, he said 'I could die a happy man.’”

Gary Poulter’s life is the stuff of novels and movies. But it also fits with these words from Ernest Holmes:

“If a man has had, and apparently lost, many opportunities, he must be shown that he stands at the point of limitless opportunity; that opportunity is right here today; that he sees and grasps it. It recognizes him as he recognizes it. We exist in Limitless Opportunities, which are forever seeking expression through us.“

So Poulter, standing at that point of limitless opportunity, saw it, grasped it, and left an indelible legacy through his one and only film.

And so it is.