Happiness

I was watching a PBS program recently on inspiring happiness and my reaction was: this sounds a lot like Science of Mind; these ideas are not exactly new. Ernest Holmes wrote about happiness and the power of positive thought in the early 20th Century.  “Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life” is a main idea in his book, Science of Mind.

News seems to focus on the negative, on the idea “if it bleeds, it leads.”  Who hasn’t come from being exposed to the news -- print, Internet, or television -- feeling down and depressed. Things seem bad and getting worse, and it affects our mood. It affects the race consciousness.

Ernest Holmes knew that, and wrote about it:  develop a positive mental atmosphere to power our journey through a life filled with love, peace, harmony, wealth, opportunity, good health and success.
Holmes’ philosophy differs in it’s spiritual component. As spiritual beings having a human experience, we can use the power of our thought, of our consciousness, of our thought vibrations, to create a magnificent human experience.

Today happiness is big business. Books, Internet sites, programs, corporate training and more.  In the book, Broadcasting Happiness, author and researcher in the emerging field of positive psychology Michelle Gielan says:  Change Your Story, Change Your Power; Change Your Broadcast, Change Your Power. A shift in mindset can improve not only your life, but the lives of others. Sound familiar?

She was a former TV journalist who tired of the emphasis on negative news, and developed a popular series on happiness for CBS. She then quit her job to co-found the Institute for Applied Positive Research.

Positive psychology and neuroscience research show that shifts in the way we communicate can ripple out to effect business and education, with higher productivity, better performance ratings, higher sales and lower levels of stress. 

For the news media, she recommends adopting “Transformative Journalism,” which is “better for the bottom line, better for the public’s health, and better for society.” It’s an “activating, engaging, solution-focused approach to covering news.” Highlight stories of successful action that people or organizations take in the face of challenges that lead to success., she says. Be optimistic; believe that change is possible, empower people to take action.

On the personal level, use power leads in communication with others. Have a positive, optimistic, and inspiring beginning to set the tone in any interaction. Even small words can have an impact, so pay attention.

In an interview on the website, Experience Life, she says: “What research is now helping us understand is how choosing to broadcast positive, optimistic, idea-generating messages — even during challenging circumstances — can fuel hope and inspire others.”

Years ago, Ernest Holmes predicted that the ideas in Science of Mind would go mainstream. We see that happening. From Oprah to the myriad of books, magazines, websites and more, the race consciousness is shifting and lifting.

And so it is.

Sad and Lonely Life

My family recently visited for the holidays, and we had a wonderful time. I commented to my grandson, who is 11, that it was so nice to have the family visiting, and to hear the sounds of fun and laughter in the house. To which he replied, "...and when we leave, Grandmama, you'll go back to your sad and lonely life."
   
Wow! My sad and lonely life! I added that to a question my son-in- law made on a previous visit, "Why are you still living in this relic?"

Hmmm!
  
 AM I living a sad and lonely life?... in my relic? No roommates, no pets...not even a goldfish, here in the home I've occupied some 44 years, the last eight years alone.  I don't feel sad and lonely. Basically I feel happy and connected. And as for the relic, I'm the queen of my domain and I like it.
   
I wondered what an Internet search would bring up for "sad and lonely life."  Whoa!  Pages upon pages.  Topping  the list was an article about "Donald Trump’s Sad, Lonely Life." Really?

Other links were: “Being Single: How to Handle Loneliness," "10 More Ideas to Help with Loneliness," "I am So Sad and Lonely that It is Killing Me," and articles, poems, song lyrics and images with poetic quotes. Amazon had entire books on sad and lonely, plus books on happiness - the basic cure.
  
 A sad and lonely elderly life search yielded links to articles and images of sad and lonely older people and how to help them.
  My grandson’s comment about my sad and lonely life reflected the perception, the race consciousness, that if we're living alone, we're destined to be sad and lonely.
   
An antidote to this attitude is in the book, Going Solo, the Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone by Eric Klinenberg, professor of sociology at NYU. 
  
According to his studies, a huge demographic shift has been taking place since the baby boom, with nearly 50% of American adults now single and one out of every seven adults living alone.  In 1950, only 22% of American adults were single. And most singletons, young and old, are now leading happy, active, and fulfilling lives.
   
This preference for the single life is happening globally. Klinenberg asks: “Why has living alone become so common in the world's most affluent societies? What makes it so compelling?” 
   
"Living alone helps us pursue sacred modern values --individual freedom, personal control and self-realization", he says.  "It allows us to do what we want, when we want, on our own terms. It liberates us from the constraints of a domestic partner’s needs and demands, and permits us to focus on ourselves.” Also,  it offers time and space for restorative solitude from busy lives and digital media.
  
 “It can help us to discover who we are, as well as what gives us meaning and purpose,” he adds. Although we could see this as very self-centered and selfish, it's a validating and uplifting message for the many singletons.

But if we're in that sad and lonely place, how can we be happy and connected? Emerson says: "If you want a friend, be a friend." Ernest Holmes says, "Cultivate an attitude of friendship toward everybody and everything. Learn to love all people, and you'll find plenty of people who return that love. We attract to us what we first become."

If our mental atmosphere is one of sadness and loneliness, then that is what we attract. That is what we become. 

Bottom line: send out love vibrations to become a love and friendship magnet.  As to sadness, he says,  “There is no sadness in the Spirit. It is happy and free, for It knows neither depression nor confusion, and we belong to It, and are in and of It"
    
So...sad and lonely, or happy and connected? It's our choice.

And so it is.