Attracting a Loving Relationship

Happy Valentine's Day!  Thoughts of love and romance are in the air.  Candy, flowers and gifts are sent and received in the name of St Valentine.

Exactly who WAS this mysterious St. Valentine?  Legend says that he was a priest in the time of Emperor Claudius II in third century Rome.  Claudius decided that single, rather than married, men were better suited for battle.  So he outlawed marriage for young men...his potential pool of soldiers.  Valentine rebelled against this decree, and performed marriages for young lovers in secret.  But once discovered, he was imprisoned and sentenced to death.

While in prison, the legend goes, he fell in love with the jailer's daughter and sent her a farewell letter before he was beheaded...he signed it "from your Valentine."  Thus...the first Valentine.

And his day...Valentine's Day...is, of course, associated with passionate love and finding one's right and perfect mate.

I wondered what Ernest Holmes had to say about love.  In the Science of Mind text, I found this quotation from the Gospel of John:

"Love is an essence, an atmosphere, which defies analysis, as does Life Itself.  It is that which IS and cannot be explained...The essence of love, while elusive, pervades everything, fires the heart, stimulates the emotions, renews the soul and proclaims the spirit.  Only love knows love, and love knows only love."

Isn't that great!  But what if someone says, "I just want a girl friend, or a boy friend." Does this apply?

Yes, says Ernest Holmes.  Use the Law of Attraction.  Let's attract the kind of relationship we desire.  Imagine the ideal relationship...but  not a specific individual.  Don't outline; let the Universe do that work.

For an enduring, true, really worthwhile relationship, he says, cultivate an attitude of love.  We attract to us what we first become.  Send out love vibrations; then we'll receive love in return.  In order to be loved, be loving.  And as John said:  Love knows love.

Frederick Bailles, in Basic Principles of Science of Mind, writes there are literally ten thousand individuals with whom we could be happy.  But those ten thousand would have the same hidden something that is the basis of true, mutual appeal.

Infinite Mind knows where each person is, and the hidden currents of Its activity are in motion to bring us together with our right and perfect love.

So how would we put this into a Spiritual Mind Treatment?  Here's what I came up with:

There is one Creative Intelligence everywhere present.  It is the Creator that creates all.  It creates me, flows through me, supports me and expresses as me.  I am Creative Intelligence in action.


I have within me all the confidence, charisma, compassion and understanding to draw to myself a deep, satisfying and loving relationship with a loving, committed mate.  I radiate the qualities I want in another person.  I know that somewhere there is someone who needs and wants a loving relationship with me.  I connect with a committed relationship that is mutually beneficial, mutually fulfilling and mutually loving.  We are intuitively in harmony; we love and enjoy each other just as we are.  Infinite Mind moves beneath the surface to bring us together.


I gratefully receive and give thanks for this right and perfect relationship, and more.  I release my word into the Universe...knowing it is already so.  And so it is.

I like this treatment because it is so positive, and stresses the mutual nature of the relationship.  It's not getting something, but giving and receiving.

Does it work?  About two years ago I worked with a young man (who gave me permission to talk about this) who indicated that he was ready for love and marriage, but feeling discouraged and lonely.  I decided to treat every night that he would attract a loving relationship.  One treatment can be enought, but Ernest Holmes also says to keep treating until we demonstrate that which we desire.

Before long I received an email, "I've hit it off with someone.  We have a lot in common."  And now I have received a "Save the Date" card for a wedding set for August.

Of course, finding the soul-mate is just the beginning.  Relationships change, expand, take new forms, and go through different stages.  They need cultivation.  The web of any relationship is made in day-to-day, side-by-side living.  It is woven in space and time of the substance of life itself.

The best relationship is that of two fully developed individuals, who are able to dance perfectly in tune to the same rhythm.

To quote Aristotle: "Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies."  And so it is.